The School Called Marriage

by | Feb 12, 2016 | Church, Marriage

Lenten Greetings!

You may or may not have noticed that this has been Marriage Week. And the internet has been awash with a plethora of ideas to boost one’s marriage and the marriages of others.

Bravo to the US Bishops in particular for their innovative “What have you done for your marriage?” quiz and other digital ideas.

Here in Westminster we continue apace with inspiring the young to aspire to lifelong marriage with the groundbreaking “Explore” workshop bringing volunteer married couples into our high schools/colleges to dialogue with spouses. Feedback from the students is off the charts in positivity. Teachers love it as it helps them with RSE (relationships and sex education) aims. Couples love it because it’s automatic enrichment. Win win all round. More info here www.theexploreexperience.co.uk or contact Mary McGhee on marymcghee@rcdow.org.uk. We’ve visited over a dozen schools so far and worked with well over 1000 youngsters. There’s more to do so do please consider volunteering either as a couple or as a facilitator. It’s great fun and rewarding work.

Meanwhile here’s a thought to share with young people  …

Marriage is the only school where you get the Certificate before you start.
It’s also a school where you will never graduate. It’s a school without a break or a free period. It’s a school where no one is allowed to drop out. It’s a school you will have to attend every day of your life. It’s a school where there is no sick leave or holidays. It’s a school founded by God:

1.On the foundation of love.

2.The walls are made out of trust.

3.The door made out of acceptance.

4.The windows made out of understanding

5.The furniture made out of blessings

6.The roof made out of faith.

Be reminded that you are just a student not the principal.
God is the only Principal.
Even in times of storms, don’t be unwise and run outside. Keep in mind that this school is the safest place to be. Never go to sleep before completing your assignments for the day. Never forget the C-word…Communicate. Communicate with your classmate and with the Principal. If you find out something in your classmate (spouse) that you do not appreciate, remember your classmate is also just a student not a graduate, God is not finished with him/her yet. So take it as a challenge and work on it together. Do not forget to study the Holy Book (the main textbook of this school). Start each day with a sacred assembly and end it the same way. Sometimes you will feel like not attending classes, yet you have to. When tempted to quit find courage and continue. Some tests and exams may be tough but remember, the Principal knows how much you can bear and yet it’s a school better than any other. It’s one of the best schools on earth; joy, peace and happiness accompany each lesson of the day. Different subjects are offered in this school, yet love is the major subject. After all the years of theorizing about it, now you have a chance to practice it. To be loved is a good thing, but to love is the greatest privilege of them all. Marriage is a place of love, so love your spouse.

– Edmund Adamus
Director, Office of Marriage and Family Life – Diocese of Westminster

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Edmund Adamus

Edmund and his wife Catherine have been married for almost 18 years and have been blessed with 3 children; Patrick (who awaits them in Heaven), Paul and Beatrice. After 13 years of ministry in the Salford diocese and gaining a Master's in moral theology, he served the Archdiocese of Westminster from 2003-16 as Director for Pastoral Affairs/Marriage & Family Life. He successfully established the Annual Mass of Thanksgiving for Matrimony in Westminster cathedral as well as the Annual Theology of the Body Lecture series hosting world renowned scholars such as Michael Waldstein, Janet Smith and Christopher West. Christian Meert was also among those speakers. All his work both past and present has been through the prism of the truths of Humanae vitae. Since 2019 he has been Education Consultant to the relationships and sexuality formation project 'A Fertile Heart: Receiving & Giving Creative Love'. As freelance consultant he works as Secretary to the Commission of Inquiry into Discrimination Against Christians in the UK and has just been appointed Executive Director for the UK branch of the International Voluntary Solidarity Fund

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