Marriage is the only school where you get the certificate before you start. It’s also a school where you will never graduate.
Not the Destination...
“Patient Realism” is the title of a section within chapter 7 of the apostolic exhortation Amoris Laetitia -The Joy of Love ‘Towards a Better Education of Children.’ One line to define patient realism is ” changing a child’s behaviour involves a gradual process, but also that freedom needs to be channeled and stimulated, since by itself it does not ensure growth in maturity. ”
In our mom’s group, we’ve been reading “A Book of Saints for Catholic Moms” by Lisa Hendey. Each chapter describes the life of a different saint, a reflection on what we can learn from their life, and scripture to ponder that week. (cover by lordshadowblade @DeviantArt)
This week I’ve been thinking of how I can help my 7 year old boy [who is now preparing for his first confession in the Sacrament of Reconciliation in Advent and First Holy Communion next year] explore his school religious education theme of seeing the “home” – our family, but also our extended family – as the environment where he is learning to know and appreciate human love as the expression of God’s divine love in his life.
When parents of a newborn baby set out on the big scary adventure of tackling the myriad of challenges in caring for their baby, there's no shortage of advice from family and friends to help them on their way.
I left us on a rather grim note, last time. Obviously, I am not dead. I am still here, still going, and you know what, life is pretty good these days. So the question is, how did I get from the deep pit of awful I was in to here? Not easily. And not alone.
Sometimes we get confused on what love is. We think it’s this strong emotion where you can’t imagine life without your spouse. Or we think that it’s a constant adventure where adrenaline and oxytocin are constantly pumping through our veins. I have thought those things myself, and sometimes they can be true. But then, when our marriage didn’t seem that adventurous anymore and I wasn’t always feeling those strong emotions, I questioned whether or not I was still in love.