THEOLOGY OF THE BODY MARRIAGE PREPARATION
Agapè Catholic MarriagePreparation has been designed with military and deployed personnel in mind.
It is listed as a valuable resource on the Archdiocese for the Military Services website.
A discount is offered to all military couples as a token of our appreciation for their service.
PRIOR to registration, please either scan and click here to email your valid military ID - (Please crop in order to show only name and expiration date), or scan and click here to email a letter from command as proof of service. We will then email you a discount code to be entered in the payment page when you register.
Read here Archbishop Broglio's article on the challenges faced by military couples.
James and Stephanie
It really allowed us the opportunity to get to know each other on a deeper level, even if we had to do it via Skype!
It gave me, Stephanie, the spark I needed to re-light my fire for Christ which was smothered by life in general. It forced us to talk about some things that we've never really had the chance to talk about in-depth before.
Since James isn't Catholic, it helped him to understand more where I am coming from with my some of my viewpoints and beliefs.
Meet our Military Instructors
Gordon and Mary
Gordon recently retired after 28 years enlisted in the Air Force. Gordon was 21 and Mary was 19 when they got married 30 years ago. They have been a military couple almost their entire marriage. They have endured months of separation due to deployments and even a year apart when Gordon was in Korea. They did this without the benefit of being stationed near family to help out. Here is their experience of being Catholic Marriage Prep Instructors, as they help a lot of engaged couples in the military go through their marriage preparation.
"We absolutely love working with the military couples who take this class, and we enjoy giving them some encouragement and insight. We are committed to helping couples build strong, faith-filled and lasting marriages. We tell our couples that Mary knew in her heart when she married Gordon that his loyalty was always to his job. Taking the oath to serve his country demands that. And Gordon also knew that he took a vow before God to love her and honor her. It’s a difficult situation that only military couples face. Military couples have to be strong, trusting and absolutely self-sacrificing to be successful! We definitely had our struggles over the years and we share this with them.
It is so rewarding to teach military couples the Catholic teaching and preparation for marriage. We receive so much in return! To hear their dedication to each other during long, difficult separations, and the stories of how Jesus personally helped them through their tours in Iraq and Afghanistan inspires us, too! We feel extremely blessed to be instructors for this program and we think we are filling a need for those men and women who are apart during their engagement."
Tom and Darci
We met our freshman year of college at Franciscan University of Steubenville in Ohio.
After graduating law school Tom joined the United States Navy as a JAG Officer. Our first assignment was Gulfport, MS just before Hurricane Katrina hit! Our home was relatively unscathed but it was amazing to watch how the community pulled together to help each other rebuild. While in Mississippi Tom deployed to Iraq for 7 months. When he returned we packed our things and headed to San Diego, CA. We spent 3 years there in America's Finest City soaking up all that southern California had to offer.
After 3 years in San Diego we decided to leave active duty so that our little family could stop moving around and we settled for Denver, where Darci grew up and we have a lot of family support. Tom continues as a JAG officer in the Reserves and works full-time for the Arapahoe District Attorney's office.
We are really excited to be part of the Catholic Marriage Prep family. Marriage is a beautiful vocation and we feel so blessed to work with couples as they prepare for it. We hope that some of our struggles and triumphs in marriage will help others along their journey to grow closer to each other and most importantly, to grow closer to our Lord.
Joe and Debbie
Naples, Italy, 1985.|
Joe, a 1980 graduate of the US Naval Academy, arrived for some well-earned shore duty after five years of arduous nuclear submarine duty as a “steely-eyed killer of the deep.”
Debbie, a 1985 graduate from the Academy, arrived as a watch officer at the communications master station.|
We met at a bus stop on the NATO base.
We married in 1987 (on a Friday in Lent!) in a Catholic ceremony at the Navy Chapel. Nine months later, our first was born. Six weeks later, Debbie was received into the Church, and our daughter was baptized. A week later, Joe left the Navy. In a little over two years, Debbie went from a single Protestant career woman to a married Catholic lady with two dependents. Life is full of surprise!
Today. We’ve moved – to Colorado, Virginia, Colorado, Northern England, Colorado – and grown -- to ten kids (eight by birth, two by adoption), a wonderful son-in-law, a lovely daughter-in-law, and three fantastic grandchildren. This youth fills our lives with chaos, noise, confusion, and messes, but they have enriched our lives immeasurably.
Lisa and Mike
We began our married life on December 29th, 1984. Michael was already in the Army, having served two years enlisted time and having recently graduated from West Point. Lisa was finishing college (Mount Saint Mary) with a semester yet to go. The first 6 months of our marriage began with 4 weeks of our living together as man and wife and then 5 months of Lisa finishing college in NY and Michael attending various military schools and trainings. Our life has been an adventure ever since, including 2 children, one grandchild, 14 duty stations, 4 deployments, an un accompanied tour, and retirement. Our oldest, Angela, is 25 and lives in Texas with her family. She gave us our first granddaughter, Ava. Mikey is 20 and attends Saint Bonaventure University. Our children came to our family through the gift of adoption. Each of their stories is beautiful and we remain eternally grateful for the blessings that they are in our lives.
It is our hope and prayer that our story, combined with the teachings and truth of our Holy Catholic Church, will encourage, enhance, and enlighten the marriage preparation process of the couples we encounter here. “Your wedding is for a day. Your marriage is for a lifetime. Prepare well and entrust your marriage to God.”
Emily and Tim
We met at Texas A&M university in Chemistry class. Tim was only attending one semester before transferring to the Air Force Academy. We continued dating long distance, and Emily moved to Colorado Springs in 2002, so we could discern marriage. We married in 2004, and have been stationed in Virginia, Oklahoma, New Jersey, California, and Washington DC. Tim is a C-17 pilot and foreign areas officer in the region of Southeast Asia. We have three beautiful children. Being a military family has certainly had its challenges, times of separation, living far from family, packing and unpacking and doing it all over again, but it has also given us the gift of deep friendships, forced us to find ways to connect when we aren’t together, allowed us to experience new areas, ideas, and cultures, and to be wowed by God’s faithfulness again and again. We can certainly say that we have grown in faith, forged in trusting God and relying on the sacraments. We have learned that while you can’t avoid the struggle, you can learn to struggle well. It is our prayer that we can help to encourage other couples as they begin their own beautiful journey into marriage.
Garrett and Kristen
Garret, Pilot: It was wonderful being able to do this together even when we are far apart.
The class forced us to take a significant amount of time out of our schedules each week to focus solely on what marriage is all about. It helped us to know that we have similar understandings and expectations of our future and helped build foundations for talking about how Christ is the center of our relationship.
Kristen, Nurse: I enjoyed this class very much! My overall appreciation was the encouragement of our instructors. They always responded to our submissions in a quick and timely manner with thoughtful responses. They were very encouraging and challenged Garrett and me to really take a look at our relationship and find our strengths and areas of improvement. This class brought up many discussions between Garrett and me, and I am looking forward to having the responses to look back on throughout our marriage.
This online program was a perfect way for Garrett and me to prepare for our marriage. It gave us the opportunity to really think and discuss the topics presented. We were able to form our answers on our own, discuss them together, and then submit and view the responses. It definitely met our expectations!
We are very excited to remain abstinent and pure to one another for the night of our marriage. This course also helped us to really know the many benefits that NFP, and we are excited to welcome God into our marriage and appreciate the gift of children.
Thanks to our instructors! They are wonderful; they are a strong couple and are great role models!
Joseph and Alexis
Joseph, submarine Officer: I think there was a lot of good information and it really gave me a greater appreciation of the sacrament of marriage. I'm more excited now to marry Alexis than ever, and I think the course had a big part in building that excitement.
I had no idea how the online aspect of it would work. I thought it might be difficult for us to do since we are living far apart. It turned out to be very user friendly and we had no trouble doing the worksheets and communicating with each other.
While there was a lot of great content, the thing I appreciated the most were our instructors who always provided timely feedback. It was also obvious that while they were always quick to provide our answer keys, they really took the time to read our answers and respond personally to us. The interaction between us and our instructors was actually much better than I anticipated going into the course.
Much of our focus had been on planning the wedding ceremony and reception. It was nice to be able to focus on God's role in our wedding but also looking beyond the wedding to the rest of our lives.
I think the format of the course allowed us to discuss topics we hadn't really discussed in depth before. Additionally, we were able to develop our own ideas and answers first and then discuss them with each other.
Alexis, Senior Reactor Engineer: I feel like this class has taught me a lot about Catholicism and has helped me to better appreciate Joe’s religion. I think it has also helped me to change my attitude about our religious differences and opened my eyes up to the fact that we are a lot closer on our views than I thought we were. The class was very beneficial and helped us to think and focus on things that we would not have done on our own.
I’ve always had a desire to be close to God. I think it showed me new ways that I can align what I want and feel to what God wants for me.
Thank you to our instructors. We really appreciate all your help.
Bill and Abby
It was very convenient! It worked out perfect for my husband and I. He is in Afghanistan. The instructors were great and replied quickly! Perfect!
It was nice to reconnect with the church while my husband is away. He was able to reconnect his faith too, it brought him closer to god while being in an active work zone.
Samuel and Natalia
Samuel, Military-Army: I know that I am walking away from this experience/class more knowledge and prepared for marriage. I have learned important tools that will be implemented into our marriage. This prep allowed me to see things from a different perspective that I may not have given the opportunity to see before.
Natalia, Registered Dental Assistant: I feel as though Sam and I have become closer after this experience. He is not always as faith/church/God orientated as I am, but I feel as though we grew together to form a closer bond with each other and God. Gordon and Mary always gave us great pointers and advice that we would have not come up with on our own. i feel that when I walk down the aisle towards my future husband, I know that we are closer than ever thanks to this course and the help of Mary and Gordon.
Read here the poignant testimony of Matt, a Black Hawk Helicopter Mechanic in Iraq.