I came around the corner from the hallway into the kitchen and was presented with the sight of my eleven-year-old daughter going to-and-fro with pots of water boiling, cooking materials everywhere, and headphones on her ears. My wife had taken our youngest son to yet another therapy session (being a Special Needs Mom is tough), the other kids were nowhere to be seen, and I had just come off a long day of work.
Not the Destination...
A few weeks ago, we discussed marriage as a partnership like you’d find in an adventure movie. Today, we need to look at partnership from a slightly different angle.
Yes, our differences can cause conflict or complementarity. They can push us apart or join us together. The reality, though, is this only works when both partners do three, specific things very consistently.
Leo: “Mom, I’m done with Math!”
Me: “Leo, that’s great! Where is it so I can correct it to see how you did?”
Leo: “I ripped it into a bunch of pieces and threw it in the garbage!” (Followed by a hearty and mischievous laugh!)
Parents pass along all kinds of lessons to their kids. We teach manners, habits, life skills, and more. We want our kids to have every advantage and to start where we are, instead of where we were at their age.
My nine-year-old son was in flag football this year. At his first practice, one of the other kids was so nervous he cried. Several of the boys threw further than I could. My son was somewhere in the middle. I was so relieved that I hadn’t messed him up beyond hope!